My husband "likes" every single selfie his female coworker posts, but hasn't "liked" a photo of me in three years

it sounds so petty. but i checked my husband’s "activity" on social media. he "likes" every "outfit of the day" post from this girl in his marketing department. he even comments "killing it!" or "congrats!" on her professional wins. meanwhile, i posted a photo of us at a wedding last week and he didn't even acknowledge it. he says "social media isn't real life," but he seems to find time to make it real for her.

The Breakdown:

• He Said: He’s just being "supportive" of his colleagues and doesn't think his wife needs digital validation.
• She Said: She’s being "devalued" in the public eye while he’s "orbiting" another woman.

The Science: This is "Micro-cheating." Digital validation is a form of currency. When a partner spends that currency on others while being "frugal" with their spouse, it creates a "rejection sensitivity" that can lead to a total breakdown of the secure base.

The Solution: "It’s not about the 'like' on a screen; it’s about the public recognition. When you're the 'top fan' for a coworker but silent about your own wife, it makes me feel invisible. If 'social media isn't real,' then it should be easy for you to stop commenting on her posts and start prioritizing ours."

#MicroCheating #DigitalValidation