He wants to split the rent 50/50 but I have to do 100% of the "Emotional Labor"

we moved in together to be DINKs and save money. great, right? except he thinks 50/50 money means we’re "even." but i’m the one who remembers his mom’s birthday, books our flights, plans dinner, and makes sure the toilet paper exists. i told him i wanted him to step up and he said "well, i pay half the rent, what else do you want?" i want a partner, not a tenant.

The Breakdown:

• He Said: He’s fulfilling his part of the "Financial Contract."
• She Said: She’s drowning in the Mental Load. The inequality in labor is causing Situationship Fatigue even though they live together.

The Science: This is Weaponized Incompetence. By pretending he "doesn't know how" to plan or manage the household, he forces her into the "Manager" role, which kills sexual desire and leads to the Roommate Phase.

The Solution: "Splitting the rent is easy; splitting the life is the hard part. I’m not your personal assistant. If we are 50/50 on money, we need to be 50/50 on the brain-work of this house. Let's sit down and re-negotiate our Consistency Contract."