He posted me on his Close Friends story but won't post me on his main grid

we’ve been dating 6 months. he’s "the perfect guy" IRL. but his IG is a different story. he’ll post me on his "Close Friends" story (only like 10 people), but his main grid is just him, his gym bros, and "single vibes" thirst traps. i feel like i’m being Pocketed. he says he "values his privacy," but he posts his protein powder more than he posts me. is he hiding me or just "lowkey"?

The Breakdown:

• He Said: He wants to keep his private life private and avoid the "drama" of a public breakup if things go south.
• She Said: She feels like a secret. If you aren't "Grid Official" after 6 months, do you even exist?

The Science: This is a classic case of Avoidant Dismissal. By keeping the relationship "off-grid," he maintains an illusion of availability, which is a subconscious defense mechanism against true intimacy.

The Solution: "I respect your privacy, but there’s a difference between being private and being a secret. Being excluded from your public life makes me feel like a temporary fixture. What are you afraid will happen if people know we're together?"