My parents are getting a "Gray Divorce" after 40 years and now I’m questioning my own marriage

my parents are 65. they were the "golden couple." last week, my mom told me she’s leaving because she’s "tired of being a ghost." she said they haven't had a real conversation since 1998. now i (32F) am looking at my husband and wondering if we’re just on the same path. are we just two people sharing a netflix account until we die?

The Breakdown:

• The Parents: They fell into the Roommate Phase and never climbed out.
• The Daughter: She’s experiencing Relationship Contagion—the fear that other people's failures are her destiny.

The Science: Gray Divorce is skyrocketing because people are realizing they don't want to spend their final 20 years in Emotional Neglect. It’s a failure of Bids for Connection over decades.

The Solution: "Seeing my parents' marriage end made me realize how easily we could drift apart. I don't want to be 'ghosts' in 30 years. Let's start a 'Weekly Check-in' where we talk about everything except the kids and the house."