My girlfriend uses "therapy speak" to tell me why I’m wrong during every fight

i (28M) love that my gf is into self-growth, but lately, every argument feels like a clinical trial. if i tell her i’m upset, she says i’m "projecting my childhood trauma" or that i’m "lacking the emotional bandwidth for a mature dialogue." she literally told me yesterday that my tone was "triggering her nervous system" because i asked her to do the dishes. i feel like i’m being Ghostlighted by a textbook.

The Breakdown:

• She Said: She’s trying to use "healthy communication" tools she learned in therapy.
• He Said: He feels condescended to. The therapy language is being used to shut down his valid feelings.

The Science: This is Weaponized Therapy Speak. It’s a form of Stonewalling where one partner uses clinical terminology to claim the moral high ground and invalidate the other person's subjective experience.

The Solution: "I respect your healing journey, but I need you to speak to me as my partner, not my therapist. Using clinical terms to label my feelings feels like a way to avoid hearing what I’m actually saying. Can we just talk like us?"