My fiancé "lost" his job, but i found out he was actually fired for "Embezzlement" 6 months ago

he’s been "working from home" every day. he wears a suit, goes into his office, and "takes calls." i checked our mail and found a legal summons. he didn't 'lose' his job; he was fired for stealing $20k from his firm and they’re suing him. he’s been "performing" a job for six months while we spent our savings on wedding deposits.

The Breakdown:

• He Said: He was "scared" to tell her and was "trying to fix it" before she found out.
• She Said: He’s a professional actor who has been lying to her for 180 days straight.

The Science: This is Performative Reality. When a partner continues to "act out" a life that no longer exists, it’s a sign of a severe "Dissociative Deception." They would rather live in a lie than face the "Shame" of reality.

The Solution: "You’ve been 'going to work' in our spare room while our life was burning down. I can't marry a man who is more committed to the 'show' than to the truth. The wedding is off."

#FinancialAbuse #DissociativeDeception