He broke up with me because I’m "too expensive" even though I pay for myself

i (29F) work hard and i like nice things. i pay my own rent, my own car, and i always split the bill. my bf (30M) is obsessed with Loud Budgeting and "FIRE" (financial independence retire early). he told me yesterday that my "lifestyle" is a "red flag" and he can't see a future because i bought a designer bag with my own bonus money. he said we aren't "aligned." i’m heartbroken.

The Breakdown:

• He Said: He’s looking for a partner with a matching "scarcity mindset" to reach his financial goals.
• She Said: She’s being judged for how she spends the money she earns.

The Science: This is a Values Conflict. Research shows that financial compatibility is the #1 predictor of long-term success. His "Loud Budgeting" is actually a mask for Control Issues.

The Solution: "If you’re judging my character based on a one-time purchase I made with my own savings, we aren't just misaligned on money—we're misaligned on respect. I want a life that feels good now, not just a retirement plan."